I have been on my fair share of first dates and to do this day, I am still shocked by some of the things you guys say. I sometimes wonder if maybe you tell me the crazy stuff in hopes of not landing a second date, which is fair enough, but something tells me that many of you have no clue you are hurting your chances of getting to first base when you say: Read the rest over at splash
Love means different things to different people. For some it means ownership of someone else’s heart. To others it simply means loving yourself.
Here are five of my favorite ways to love:
1. Self love: In order to love anyone else you need to love yourself first. If you can master this, you can love anyone, even haters. When you love yourself, you love what you see and you love who you are with no matter what.
2. Service: We aren’t born just to take what we can from life; we are born to give more to life. Wake up and ask, “How can I help someone today? How can I make someone else’s life better?” It’s more fulfilling to give then to take so be mindful throughout your day to be a giver.
3. Kind words:
I happened to be a part of a large conversation with a group of moms recently when the topic turned to this image: Read the rest over at splash
When I went to college I remember thinking, “Why am I here? I’m probably going to get married in the next few years, stay home and make babies.” I always had such an innate yearning to have kids of my own, and never thought in a million years I would be one of those moms who chose to work instead of staying home and raising their kids.
My friends around me were so driven to make great grades so that they could get good jobs in the fields they were passionate about. I would shake my head and look at them like, “Wow, you’re OK with a latchkey kid?”
Flash forward 20 years later and every one of those driven friends is a stay-at-home mom and I’m out in the work force spending less time with my child than I ever could have imagined. Don’t get me wrong: I’m grateful for the work. As a single mom with no other financial support coming in, I don’t have a choice.
I had a friend recently say to me, “I’m stuck in a rut!”
I replied, “What does that mean, exactly?”
She said, “Nothing is going my way. I’m bored and can’t get out of this mundane path I’m on.”
I then asked her what she was doing to get herself out of her rut. She replied, “Nothing. I’m waiting for something to happen to pull me out of it.”
I might be only 40, but I do know that in my 20 years of busting my butt in this business, waiting never works. If I had waited for something to happen, I would have been staring at my bedroom ceiling for the past two decades.
We are put here on Earth to figure out what we love to do and how we can help people. Once we connect with what that is, it’s up to us to seek out opportunities that make our visions come to fruition in our own lives.
So take the time to get to know yourself and ask questions like:
Brande Roderick is on my talk show tonight, and we briefly discussed how to find love. I started with, “Well, what do we look for in a guy?”
Here’s what Brande and I eventually came up with:
1. Looks: Don’t always go for hunky. Looks do count, but they shouldn’t stop you from looking further to see if there’s chemistry. There could be a gem hidden behind his little extra belly fat.
2. Respect: Without respect for each other there’s no point in moving forward. If a guy treats you like a Saturday night blow-up doll, he doesn’t respect you. Move on quickly and find the guy that wants to get to know you — and not just your anatomy.